This Verse Can Enhance Your Life!

Posted on February 6, 2019



By David Ettinger

Not Exaggerating
The title of this blog bugs me. It has that cheesy infomercial quality used to promote some miracle product you cannot live without. But I assure you, the title is not an exaggeration. To the contrary, I have discovered one particular verse which has impacted my life as no other. I find that its promise is fulfilled every time – providing, of course, I do my part. The verse is Proverbs 16:7, and it reads: “When a man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.”

Laying the Framework
Before looking at Proverbs 16:7, I want to briefly consider another verse – one which first exhibited to me the power of God’s Word.

The year was 1986; I had gotten divorced in June, and gave my life to Christ in October. It was now November and I was trying to work out what the Bible said about divorce and how I was to conduct my life in the light of what Scripture taught. As I studied the thorny issue, I came upon 1 Corinthians 7:15: “Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.” For me, the first part of the verse was not in play. Rather, what hit be like a thunderbolt was the second part, “but God has called us to peace.”

From that moment on I knew that no matter what my ex-wife, Barb, did, my part was to be steadfast: I was to seek peace at every turn. I was not to argue, throw jealous fits, or be mean-spirited. Instead, I was to live out my newfound faith in Christ by doing everything in my power to be at peace with Barb, especially since we shared custody of our then-2-year-old son.


It worked! Barb was immediately receptive to my civility and courtesy, and treated me likewise. It made life so much easier. It was the Lord saying, “David, if you obey Me regarding this difficult situation and let Me work through you, I assure you that both you and Barb will flourish.” Almost 33 years later, Barb and I are still at peace and have a wonderful relationship!

More to Come
Despite the peace, there were still times of tension between us. Though we did our best to remain civil, once in a while there would be sharp disagreement, and we were very disturbed by it. Then, one day I came across Proverbs 16:7: “When a man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.” Approximately 10 years after that first lightning bolt hit me (1 Corinthians 7:15), this new one rocked me to my core.

Upon meditating on the verse, it occurred to me that the times of contention with Barb – and with just about everyone else for that matter – always seemed to occur when my walk with the Lord was not what it should be. I was not reading my Bible enough. I was neglecting to pray. I gave little thought to God. I too often yielded to temptation. I would get into spiritual ruts, and when I did, ill-will and discord with others followed.

But after the Lord planted Proverbs 16:7 in my heart, I realized that, for me, the “enemy” here was Barb, but only in the sense that she was the person in my life with whom I had the most friction (concerning the raising of our son). Though these times were infrequent, they were disheartening and we both hated them.

The day of my “Proverbs 16:7 Awakening” changed me in drastic ways. I took God at His word and determined to make my ways pleasing to Him by devoting myself to consistent Bible reading, more prayer, and heeding His commands to love others. I stood more firmly against sin and better controlled my tongue. Since then, whenever I was certain that Barb and I would clash, it never happened. When I dropped Aaron off at her house, rather than argue, we would chat cordially and then part ways pleasantly. I would drive home joyfully wondering, “Lord, what just happened?”

The same applied to dealings with co-workers and supervisors, friends, relatives, and neighbors. When I lifted a difficult matter up to the Lord, but also did my part by living to please Him, the expected hostilities never occurred; God had made my “enemies” to be at peace with me.

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No Formula
There is no hocus-pocus incantation or sleight of hand that will move God to act on your behalf. There is no formula that guarantees peace with all people. What there is, however, is God’s Holy Word, and His integrity, purity, goodness, righteousness, and power which stand behind that Word.

Proverbs 16:7 is an example of this. This does not guarantee that every “enemy” in your life will be silenced; you will still experience occasional confrontation. However, this wonderful verse presents a principle, that being that God will for the most part give you peace with those you often are in conflict with; that He will help ease hostilities in your life if you live obediently to Him.

Proverbs 16:7 has proven this to be oh-so-true to me, and it has greatly enhanced my life. It can do the same for you!